So you’ve met the person of your dreams and have decided to propose. In heterosexual relationships, most people still expect the man to propose to the woman instead of the other way around, but there’s no rule that says things must unfold that way. If you’re in a non-heterosexual relationship, then the rules are less defined. Either way, you should feel free to do what feels natural for you as a couple. Here are three great ways to propose marriage to the person you love.
Over the Holidays
Dec. 24 and Dec. 25 are the most popular days to propose, according to experts in the wedding industry. For many people, the holidays are about holding the ones you love close, and what better way to do so than with an engagement? It’s also a popular option because people often want to get engaged when they’re near family members. That doesn’t necessarily mean getting down on one knee in front of all your aunts, uncles, and cousins, but proximity to relatives is helpful when you want to celebrate the upcoming nuptials.
Jewelers refer to the weeks before Christmas as “engagement season” because so many men are coming in to stores to look for the perfect ring. If you’re going to try the holiday proposal, keep a few things in mind. For one thing, the holidays stress a lot of people out, and not everyone will want to get engaged during that time. Secondly, if you imply that your girlfriend is getting a ring for Christmas, you can’t fake her out on Christmas morning by getting her something else. Expectations should be clear and realistic on both sides. A proposal doesn’t have to be a complete surprise, either. In fact, you should have at least a few conversations about marriage and the future first, just so you know you’re both on the same page.
On the other hand, there’s such thing as too much familial closeness. If you want the proposal to be all about you as a couple, a vacation engagement might be the perfect solution. Proposing at the beginning of the trip is a great way to remove some of the pressure that inevitably occurs when you decide to ask someone to marry you thousands of miles from home. Carrying a ring with you on an international flight can also be really nerve-wracking, so you’ll want to get it out of your luggage and on your fiance’s hand as soon as possible.
Bringing the ring with you across several time zones is far from your only option for a vacation proposal, though. If you don’t mind extra planning, you can arrange to buy a ring when you arrive at your destination. If you’re going on a two-week vacation to Australia, for instance, scout out engagement rings in Brisbane before your plane lands. A stunning engagement ring is the best possible souvenir to bring back from your romantic getaway together.
This last strategy can be both the riskiest and rewarding way to get engaged. Instead of planning a precise moment and hoping it’s perfect, you wait for the perfect moment to come to you. These moments aren’t predictable, and that’s half the fun. You might get engaged while watching in Netflix in bed on a Sunday morning, or while talking about plantation shutters for sale on a Tuesday evening. It should happen when you can picture a future so clearly together that you can’t wait another minute to get started.
If you decide to go this route, make sure your spouse-to-be is cool with the spontaneous approach. They might love the idea, or they might prefer that you pop the question in a more formal setting. Hear them out, and remember that your love is the most important part of this whole thing. You may want to stage a picture-perfect moment to share on social media, but you don’t need that in order to have a happy marriage.